BURNING THROUGH LIFE: ONE I DON’T CARE AT A TIME (A REBUTTAL)
Up till I was 21, my favourite saying was ‘I don’t care what people think about me’, but then I learnt better thanks to the wise people I surrounded myself with. I grew up knowing that your worth sometimes pre-determined by the company you surround yourself with. As humans, we are predisposed to judging others by their appearance, mannerisms and company before we even talk to them.
So back when I was living my ‘I don’t care’ lifestyle, I thought all I did was right and was supposed to be acknowledged by the whole world (Bow down bitches style), but life hit me hard and fast and taught me that people’s preconceived notions put me at risk of having of not getting well-paying gigs since my career needs a lot of referrals and word of mouth.
So I started caring about what people thought and felt about my actions. I listened to close friends and elderly counsel, I sifted through the bad advice and held on to the good. Later when I started to go for job interviews and needed referrals for writing gigs, people could say Akanni Aramide is a good writer and will not disappoint you WITH ALL THEIR CHEST.
‘I don’t care what people care about me’ is good if you are a self-sufficient island that will never need help from people till you die, a young Jeff Bezos that has made billions that will never run out. Fix yourself. When people give you candid advice about your behaviour, take it with grace. Don’t be a tweeting Karen and go on a rant. Insouciant attitudes and blasé ways are never a way to take criticism from people that care about you. Once again, FIX UP, DO BETTER.
Now, I get gigs and jobs based on word of mouth from people that see the energy I put out, the positive attitude I have toward my career and the passions I support. In life, we need to constantly unlearn and relearn and be open to change so as not to be stagnant or left behind.
Anyways, enough of the SHALAYE, what’s up with y’all? How’s everything with you? How are you dealing with the heaviness of what is currently going on all over the world? Stay safe and stay blessed.